God hates divorce, we can never get Him to like it. Evil can never become good before God (Mal 2:14-17).
Divorce is the product of human culture born out of human hardness of heart. It can never become part of God’s marriage institution in the Scripture (Mar 10:1-12).
Many may rationalise or hypothesize many scenarios that may seem intolerable and intractable to justify divorce, forgetting that the real reason for marriage is not to enjoy tractable and tolerable situations but to help their life-partners in their intractable and intolerable situations.
Mundane and Christian marriages are on two divergent platforms. MUNDANE (Traditional and/or Legal) marriage belongs to people who instituted it for demanding satisfaction contrary to the beginning. The world does with their marriage whatever seems rationally good to them based on their hard-hearted selfish Cultures. This marriage is powered by human passion and founded on relational demand leading to relational scarcity. On the other hand, CHRISTIAN marriage covenant belongs to God Who instituted it for selfless service as in the beginning. The Church must do with God’s marriage only what is spiritually right with God as He has commanded in the inspired Scripture. This marriage is powered by the Spirit of Grace and wisely founded for relational supply leading to relational surplus.
Christian marriage has NO ROOM FOR DIVORCE WHATSOEVER (Mal 2:16; 1Co 7:10-11; Mark 10:11-12; Luk 16:18). To divorce your spouse is to despair and prematurely adjudge him or her as being irredeemably and eternally damned, but none has that knowledge (1Cor 7:16) or authority (1Cor 4:5). To divorce is to be judgmental and divorce requires due judicial process. The provision for adultery (Mat 5:32; 19:9) should be noted with the fact that the adulterer had to have been judicially sued and stoned for adultery (Lev 20:10; Deut 22:21-24; John 8:5) not merely suspected and sacked. Again the aggrieved suing spouse must be guiltless of sin, especially of fornication (John 8:7) including fornication according to Christ’s standards in Matt 5:28. Olden day’s partiality used to spare adulterers, but today’s fairness also spares adulteresses. As much as possible Christians should rather forbear and retain their erring spouses (Hosea 3; John 8:3-11), but do their best to pray for and seek counsel and help for them. Believers should never initiate nor provoke a divorce suit, but rather make peace (1Cor 7:15).
In event of non-Christian “marriages” done before conversion, the Christian convert spouse must never provoke nor sue the non-converted spouse for divorce (1Co 7:12-17; 1Pet 3:1-2). Since the Church has no platform to subject unbelievers to the doctrine of Christ and Church discipline except to make peace, we can do nothing if the unbelieving spouse insists on divorce despite our peace efforts (1Cor 7:15). This is one reasons why those converted before marriage should not be unequally yoked with unbelievers (2Cor 6:14-15). Do not knowingly get enticed to make the Devil your father-in-law!
Christian marriage when mishandled may get tense enough to cause one to depart due to fury or abscond due to fear without divorce. Such separation must not mean divorce or lead to remarriage, but requires chastity, prayer, arbitration and patience till reconciliation and reunion (1Cor 7:10-11). Remarriage in the Church is only for widows/widowers (1Cor 7:39).
There is a cross to bear for every venture in this life.
Someone observed that every human is mad or nearly mad or prone to madness; and marriage is the milieu for the easiest prevention or easiest precipitation of the symptoms. Prayerfully comport yourself with temperance and diligently relate with your spouse in such a delicate way that none of you cracks (1Pet 3:6-8); but if you fail, seek help. If help fails and you are endangered and frightened, find refuge meanwhile, but never seek divorce nor shun reconciliation. Never fail to remain hopeful because for sure, every human is either sane or nearly sane or prone to sanity.